Leader's Notebook
Being a Christian Does Not a Disciple Make
by Katie Harding on July 27, 2018
I wish I could tell you that I have degrees from Harvard and initials after my name and that my insight comes from the academic world and years of study. But I can’t. Instead, what I can tell you is that every day for almost twenty years I have sat at the feet of the most humble individual ever to walk the face of the earth, listening, learning and leaning in to gain further insight.
I have sat with Jesus…
In December of 2000, everything in my spiritual journey began to change. My mother died. Praying over her body in the casket was the first time I really saw the separation of the physical body and the spirit. I realized that which made her laugh and love was no longer present. It was her spirit, I determined, that made her who she was. Not until years later did I gain a more complete understanding of that moment.
Shortly thereafter, I returned to the dental field to help a colleague manage his practice. Months later I was still grieving and feeling tired. Tired from striving for success and tired from managing a staff of women who were often at odds with one another. But as I drove home from the office one night, I reached the end of myself. I descended the exit ramp from the toll road as I did each evening, and suddenly I heard myself saying, “Father, I am burned out and broken. I am tired of having to plan everything myself and tired of manipulating others to get things done.”
In that moment, I surrendered. Everything. It was the last five percent I had clung to for so many years that I was finally willing to let go of. Like so many others, I was fearful of giving up total control, but I felt done, so I continued: “Whatever You want me to do, I will do. Wherever You want me to go, I will go.” After which I added the following caveat: “However, if You want me to go to ‘Africa,’ You tell Mike (my husband).” I figured I didn’t want to be the one to break that kind of news to him.
I had been a Christian for 29 years, but being a Christian doesn’t make one a disciple. One professes a belief and the other lives out a way of life. It’s like the difference between being religious versus being in relationship. As a Christian, I was faithfully religious—in church on Sunday mornings, Sunday nights, Wednesday nights, Saturday mornings and any other time that required attendance for the most current activity. But when I came home, my Bible was placed on the banister, only to be picked up again the next time I headed for the church building and another churchy event. There was a real disconnect between knowing about Jesus and knowing Jesus.
From that night on the toll road forward, I started pursuing a relationship with the One I had professed to love for so long. The following morning, I got up early to pray, but it didn’t work out so well. Having a teenager in the house and being up late made it difficult to stay awake as I began my prayers. The next morning, I decided to try praying with my eyes open. Again, another failed attempt. I was totally distracted by the things out of place in our living room and kitchen. So on the third morning, I decided to write out my prayers. The more I wrote, the more I listened. The more I listened, the more I heard. The more I heard, the more I wrote. I was on my way to developing an intimate relationship with the Greatest Influencer the world has ever known.
It changed my life and has left me astounded. Not primarily by what I have learned, but what I realized I never knew or understood. I have heard much truth, had even more questions and been convicted in so many ways that I no longer recognize myself as the woman I once was.
The One who was just my Savior became my Lord that night on the exit ramp, and there was no turning back. There was nothing more I wanted to do than to be His disciple and follow Him. To learn His ways, glean His truths and just sit in His presence. It was peace-giving and life-sustaining.
Though God didn’t call us to Africa, life didn’t get easier as I got to know Jesus more. In fact, just the opposite. I encountered serious health issues and our marriage hit incredible difficulties that almost destroyed it. But being in relationship with Jesus every day gave me the strength to persevere and allow Him to work in the midst of significant pain.
What I discovered was being a disciple of Jesus—having a day-to-day relationship and learning from Him—reframed everything about life. It changed my attitudes, actions and behavioral patterns. It changed my personality, pride and timidity. And most of all, it changed my choices and desires, because it changed me. He changed me. And He still changes me today as He continually awakens my heart to greater understanding of His Word.
Growing up in the church, many Christians say they have never experienced life transformation in the same way others do who come to faith as adults. But I believe becoming a disciple of Jesus is transformative for everyone. It changes you from the inside out as you grow in an ever-deepening relationship with Him.
If you haven’t surrendered the last five percent, I invite you to do so today and become an all-in disciple of Jesus. It will change your life. Every moment. Every day. #SurrenderTheLastFive
I wish I could tell you that I have degrees from Harvard and initials after my name and that my insight comes from the academic world and years of study. But I can’t. Instead, what I can tell you is that every day for almost twenty years I have sat at the feet of the most humble individual ever to walk the face of the earth, listening, learning and leaning in to gain further insight.
I have sat with Jesus…
In December of 2000, everything in my spiritual journey began to change. My mother died. Praying over her body in the casket was the first time I really saw the separation of the physical body and the spirit. I realized that which made her laugh and love was no longer present. It was her spirit, I determined, that made her who she was. Not until years later did I gain a more complete understanding of that moment.
Shortly thereafter, I returned to the dental field to help a colleague manage his practice. Months later I was still grieving and feeling tired. Tired from striving for success and tired from managing a staff of women who were often at odds with one another. But as I drove home from the office one night, I reached the end of myself. I descended the exit ramp from the toll road as I did each evening, and suddenly I heard myself saying, “Father, I am burned out and broken. I am tired of having to plan everything myself and tired of manipulating others to get things done.”
In that moment, I surrendered. Everything. It was the last five percent I had clung to for so many years that I was finally willing to let go of. Like so many others, I was fearful of giving up total control, but I felt done, so I continued: “Whatever You want me to do, I will do. Wherever You want me to go, I will go.” After which I added the following caveat: “However, if You want me to go to ‘Africa,’ You tell Mike (my husband).” I figured I didn’t want to be the one to break that kind of news to him.
I had been a Christian for 29 years, but being a Christian doesn’t make one a disciple. One professes a belief and the other lives out a way of life. It’s like the difference between being religious versus being in relationship. As a Christian, I was faithfully religious—in church on Sunday mornings, Sunday nights, Wednesday nights, Saturday mornings and any other time that required attendance for the most current activity. But when I came home, my Bible was placed on the banister, only to be picked up again the next time I headed for the church building and another churchy event. There was a real disconnect between knowing about Jesus and knowing Jesus.
From that night on the toll road forward, I started pursuing a relationship with the One I had professed to love for so long. The following morning, I got up early to pray, but it didn’t work out so well. Having a teenager in the house and being up late made it difficult to stay awake as I began my prayers. The next morning, I decided to try praying with my eyes open. Again, another failed attempt. I was totally distracted by the things out of place in our living room and kitchen. So on the third morning, I decided to write out my prayers. The more I wrote, the more I listened. The more I listened, the more I heard. The more I heard, the more I wrote. I was on my way to developing an intimate relationship with the Greatest Influencer the world has ever known.
It changed my life and has left me astounded. Not primarily by what I have learned, but what I realized I never knew or understood. I have heard much truth, had even more questions and been convicted in so many ways that I no longer recognize myself as the woman I once was.
The One who was just my Savior became my Lord that night on the exit ramp, and there was no turning back. There was nothing more I wanted to do than to be His disciple and follow Him. To learn His ways, glean His truths and just sit in His presence. It was peace-giving and life-sustaining.
Though God didn’t call us to Africa, life didn’t get easier as I got to know Jesus more. In fact, just the opposite. I encountered serious health issues and our marriage hit incredible difficulties that almost destroyed it. But being in relationship with Jesus every day gave me the strength to persevere and allow Him to work in the midst of significant pain.
What I discovered was being a disciple of Jesus—having a day-to-day relationship and learning from Him—reframed everything about life. It changed my attitudes, actions and behavioral patterns. It changed my personality, pride and timidity. And most of all, it changed my choices and desires, because it changed me. He changed me. And He still changes me today as He continually awakens my heart to greater understanding of His Word.
Growing up in the church, many Christians say they have never experienced life transformation in the same way others do who come to faith as adults. But I believe becoming a disciple of Jesus is transformative for everyone. It changes you from the inside out as you grow in an ever-deepening relationship with Him.
If you haven’t surrendered the last five percent, I invite you to do so today and become an all-in disciple of Jesus. It will change your life. Every moment. Every day. #SurrenderTheLastFive
The Truth That Sets Us Free
by Katie Harding on June 16, 2018
“What do I believe? How do I know this is truth?”
Those are the questions I received this week from a leader I am journeying with through her recovery. So much pain from childhood wreaks havoc on women’s lives well into their adult years. And there she was, standing at another crossroad of faith.
That same night as I read Jesus’ words in John 8, I was struck by this phrase in verse 45, “But I speak the truth and therefore you do not believe me.” When we see the word “therefore,” we have to ask “What is it therefore?” Looking back a few verses, we see that Jesus had just told his followers “If you dwell within my revelation I have brought, you indeed are my disciples; you shall know the Truth, and the Truth will set you free.” He then goes on to tell the Pharisees in verse 44 that they practice the life characteristic of the devil and there is no truth in the devil. He is not only a liar, but he is the father of lies.
As I have pondered all of this, I realize two things:
1. It’s easier to believe a lie than the truth. We have a much easier time believing we are failures than we do believing we are God’s delight. Our minds often want to focus on our mistakes, gravitate towards assumptions or compare how we don’t measure up to others. It’s easy to go there. It’s the enslavement of our human nature, and even though we have broken free, the enemy still wants us to live there in our minds. So, we often accept every lie he whispers to us and live in the shame he offers.
2. It takes work to live out our belief. Belief doesn’t come naturally. It takes work, intentionality and energy. In most passages in the New Testament, “believe” means to “cleave to, trust, rely on and have faith in.” We often focus on the “have faith in” part of belief and neglect the others, however, the rest of the definition is where we gain our strength and the power to persevere. When we cleave to, trust in and rely on the actual indwelling of the Holy Spirit, we live by his strength. We live by his power. We don’t focus on the words of Christ, but actually on Christ himself, who dwells within. And this takes work, because believing lies is a such a natural reflex of the life we've lived for so long.
The good news is that the more we take our thoughts captive instead of allowing them to take us captive, the easier it gets. When we retrain our minds to live in the constant awareness of the One who is ever present, it changes everything. Because it changes us.
Jesus tells us that when we dwell within this revelation, we will know the Truth (Jesus) and the Truth will set us free. He will give us the Holy Spirit who will teach us all things and remind us of everything Christ has told us; he will comfort, counsel, strengthen and intercede. He will also convict us of (not condemn us for) our sin and remind us of the righteousness we have received–the right-standing we now have with God.
And what will we experience? Freedom. Freedom to live in reflective thought, not reflexive action. It’s life-giving and life-changing. It confirms the Truth as we live it out through belief.
“What do I believe? How do I know this is truth?”
Those are the questions I received this week from a leader I am journeying with through her recovery. So much pain from childhood wreaks havoc on women’s lives well into their adult years. And there she was, standing at another crossroad of faith.
That same night as I read Jesus’ words in John 8, I was struck by this phrase in verse 45, “But I speak the truth and therefore you do not believe me.” When we see the word “therefore,” we have to ask “What is it therefore?” Looking back a few verses, we see that Jesus had just told his followers “If you dwell within my revelation I have brought, you indeed are my disciples; you shall know the Truth, and the Truth will set you free.” He then goes on to tell the Pharisees in verse 44 that they practice the life characteristic of the devil and there is no truth in the devil. He is not only a liar, but he is the father of lies.
As I have pondered all of this, I realize two things:
1. It’s easier to believe a lie than the truth. We have a much easier time believing we are failures than we do believing we are God’s delight. Our minds often want to focus on our mistakes, gravitate towards assumptions or compare how we don’t measure up to others. It’s easy to go there. It’s the enslavement of our human nature, and even though we have broken free, the enemy still wants us to live there in our minds. So, we often accept every lie he whispers to us and live in the shame he offers.
2. It takes work to live out our belief. Belief doesn’t come naturally. It takes work, intentionality and energy. In most passages in the New Testament, “believe” means to “cleave to, trust, rely on and have faith in.” We often focus on the “have faith in” part of belief and neglect the others, however, the rest of the definition is where we gain our strength and the power to persevere. When we cleave to, trust in and rely on the actual indwelling of the Holy Spirit, we live by his strength. We live by his power. We don’t focus on the words of Christ, but actually on Christ himself, who dwells within. And this takes work, because believing lies is a such a natural reflex of the life we've lived for so long.
The good news is that the more we take our thoughts captive instead of allowing them to take us captive, the easier it gets. When we retrain our minds to live in the constant awareness of the One who is ever present, it changes everything. Because it changes us.
Jesus tells us that when we dwell within this revelation, we will know the Truth (Jesus) and the Truth will set us free. He will give us the Holy Spirit who will teach us all things and remind us of everything Christ has told us; he will comfort, counsel, strengthen and intercede. He will also convict us of (not condemn us for) our sin and remind us of the righteousness we have received–the right-standing we now have with God.
And what will we experience? Freedom. Freedom to live in reflective thought, not reflexive action. It’s life-giving and life-changing. It confirms the Truth as we live it out through belief.
What Does Jesus Want Me to Share?
by Katie Harding on June 1, 2018
In this social media driven society, are we as leaders always to share everything with everybody? Is Reality TV the lay of the land or are we to have filters for authenticity, vulnerability and transparency?
In answering questions like these, there is one source that can give us much greater insight than Google, and his name is Jesus. While on earth, Jesus not only came to restore our relationship with God, but to model life for us here in God’s kingdom.
In looking at Jesus’ life and reviewing the short, yet impactful, story of the Garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-46), I believe we can find answers to the questions above.
In this passage, we see three distinct groups Jesus directly related to: his outer circle (a group of twelve), his inner circle (a group of three) and his audience of One (his relationship with the Father).
To his outer circle, Jesus told them, “Stay here while I pray.” He was open and honest about his actions and intentions. He told them about the bread and wine representing his body and blood, and he shared about the hard days ahead. He was being authentic, especially about his need to pray in that moment. Authenticity is being real and true to who we are with everyone. God doesn’t want us to speak lies, but he doesn’t want us to live them either. Being authentic is living and leading from our true self, not our false self. It’s not being who others think we are but living true to who we really are at our core.
As Jesus walked on further, he invited his inner circle to make this journey with him. He began to share his deep feelings of anxiety and distress. He told them about the sorrow and grief that was encircling his soul and feeling crushed from the thought of his bleak days ahead. He was being vulnerable, very vulnerable. Vulnerability is being completely honest with others and being able to share our deep feelings and struggles without fear of condemnation or retribution. Our circle of vulnerability is usually comprised of those who will speak truth to us in love.
After Jesus asked his inner circle to keep watch and wait with him, he leaned in to converse with his audience of One, our heavenly Father. He stretched out in front of Him in prayer and spoke his deepest thoughts, “Is there any way this fate can pass from me?” In this intimate time of communion, he was free to question. Free to doubt. Free to express fear for what lay ahead. Free to be transparent. In a transparent relationship, there is nothing hidden that remains hidden. We are free to put everything on the table. Things we are willing to face and tough things we’d rather forget. Like the relationship Jesus had with the Father, our transparent relationship is where we find our greatest source of strength. We can share everything with Him, knowing we are totally and completely loved, trusting that God always has our best interest at heart. “Not my will, but yours.”
Sometimes as leaders, we can cause more damage than good by sharing everything with everybody. As we come to understand the difference between authenticity, vulnerability and transparency, we can better discern what is appropriate to post on social media or discuss with others. I have often used these words synonymously in the past, but as I reread the passage about Jesus’ final hours in the garden, I now realize how important it is to understand the difference. We are to be authentic with all, vulnerable with a few and totally transparent with the One.
In this social media driven society, are we as leaders always to share everything with everybody? Is Reality TV the lay of the land or are we to have filters for authenticity, vulnerability and transparency?
In answering questions like these, there is one source that can give us much greater insight than Google, and his name is Jesus. While on earth, Jesus not only came to restore our relationship with God, but to model life for us here in God’s kingdom.
In looking at Jesus’ life and reviewing the short, yet impactful, story of the Garden of Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-46), I believe we can find answers to the questions above.
In this passage, we see three distinct groups Jesus directly related to: his outer circle (a group of twelve), his inner circle (a group of three) and his audience of One (his relationship with the Father).
To his outer circle, Jesus told them, “Stay here while I pray.” He was open and honest about his actions and intentions. He told them about the bread and wine representing his body and blood, and he shared about the hard days ahead. He was being authentic, especially about his need to pray in that moment. Authenticity is being real and true to who we are with everyone. God doesn’t want us to speak lies, but he doesn’t want us to live them either. Being authentic is living and leading from our true self, not our false self. It’s not being who others think we are but living true to who we really are at our core.
As Jesus walked on further, he invited his inner circle to make this journey with him. He began to share his deep feelings of anxiety and distress. He told them about the sorrow and grief that was encircling his soul and feeling crushed from the thought of his bleak days ahead. He was being vulnerable, very vulnerable. Vulnerability is being completely honest with others and being able to share our deep feelings and struggles without fear of condemnation or retribution. Our circle of vulnerability is usually comprised of those who will speak truth to us in love.
After Jesus asked his inner circle to keep watch and wait with him, he leaned in to converse with his audience of One, our heavenly Father. He stretched out in front of Him in prayer and spoke his deepest thoughts, “Is there any way this fate can pass from me?” In this intimate time of communion, he was free to question. Free to doubt. Free to express fear for what lay ahead. Free to be transparent. In a transparent relationship, there is nothing hidden that remains hidden. We are free to put everything on the table. Things we are willing to face and tough things we’d rather forget. Like the relationship Jesus had with the Father, our transparent relationship is where we find our greatest source of strength. We can share everything with Him, knowing we are totally and completely loved, trusting that God always has our best interest at heart. “Not my will, but yours.”
Sometimes as leaders, we can cause more damage than good by sharing everything with everybody. As we come to understand the difference between authenticity, vulnerability and transparency, we can better discern what is appropriate to post on social media or discuss with others. I have often used these words synonymously in the past, but as I reread the passage about Jesus’ final hours in the garden, I now realize how important it is to understand the difference. We are to be authentic with all, vulnerable with a few and totally transparent with the One.
Women of Influence
Recently as I was praying, the following phrase came from the Lord, “Women who are leaders and devoted to Me can change the world.”
As I reflected on those words, my thoughts were drawn to a few very specific women in the Bible— those who went to the tomb that first Easter morning. They were leaders, women of influence, and they influenced not only each other, but their actions are still influencing us today.
These women were brave enough to journey with Jesus to the cross, despite the animosity of the crowd. They didn’t run away when they saw Christ being persecuted; in fact, they remained steadfast and focused until the end, even when others of His followers fled.
They were humble and caring and willing to do what needed to be done, when it needed to be done. They didn’t hesitate and weren’t timid. They were ordinary women open to being used by God for his extraordinary purposes.
After Jesus was laid in the tomb, the women went home that night to prepare the burial spices, and then they took a very important step. They stopped. Instead of rushing to get their task done, they rested quietly on the Sabbath and didn’t let their work get in the way of their worship. It gave them each the time to prepare their body, mind and spirit for what God had laid on their hearts to do. And when the sun rose the next morning, so did the women. They
went out early and without delay. They didn’t exhibit any fear or concern of how they were going to move the big boulder in front of the tomb.
Instead, they trusted, and their trust in God made them bold, determined and disciplined. It led them to be the first ones to hear the news of the risen Lord and to be able to share it with others. And even though the disciples first laughed at them when the women told them about Jesus’ resurrection, the men didn’t ignore their message. They still went to see for themselves.
That was influence at work. It’s called leadership. And the world was forever changed. By ordinary women.
Has the Lord put something on your heart to do? If so, what is your first step—to race to get it done or to stop and sit with Jesus? Today, I would like to encourage you to take a few moments to worship before work and see what a difference it makes.
As I reflected on those words, my thoughts were drawn to a few very specific women in the Bible— those who went to the tomb that first Easter morning. They were leaders, women of influence, and they influenced not only each other, but their actions are still influencing us today.
These women were brave enough to journey with Jesus to the cross, despite the animosity of the crowd. They didn’t run away when they saw Christ being persecuted; in fact, they remained steadfast and focused until the end, even when others of His followers fled.
They were humble and caring and willing to do what needed to be done, when it needed to be done. They didn’t hesitate and weren’t timid. They were ordinary women open to being used by God for his extraordinary purposes.
After Jesus was laid in the tomb, the women went home that night to prepare the burial spices, and then they took a very important step. They stopped. Instead of rushing to get their task done, they rested quietly on the Sabbath and didn’t let their work get in the way of their worship. It gave them each the time to prepare their body, mind and spirit for what God had laid on their hearts to do. And when the sun rose the next morning, so did the women. They
went out early and without delay. They didn’t exhibit any fear or concern of how they were going to move the big boulder in front of the tomb.
Instead, they trusted, and their trust in God made them bold, determined and disciplined. It led them to be the first ones to hear the news of the risen Lord and to be able to share it with others. And even though the disciples first laughed at them when the women told them about Jesus’ resurrection, the men didn’t ignore their message. They still went to see for themselves.
That was influence at work. It’s called leadership. And the world was forever changed. By ordinary women.
Has the Lord put something on your heart to do? If so, what is your first step—to race to get it done or to stop and sit with Jesus? Today, I would like to encourage you to take a few moments to worship before work and see what a difference it makes.
Spending Time in the Wilderness
It has been two months since I have posted anything on our Leading Well page or almost on any page of the website. I realized last week, in my study of John the Baptist, that before John began paving the way for Jesus, he had been in the wilderness. Somehow reading those words resonated with me, and I felt like for the past two months I too have been in the wilderness, unable to write or think creatively.
Normally we look at the wilderness as a less than desired place to be. A place that we would rather run from than run to. However, as I reflected on the verses about John the Baptist, I realized that it was during his time in the wilderness that John received the word from the Lord that propelled him into ministry. It was similar with Joshua. It was when Joshua was in the wilderness that he received his calling and was given his marching orders. And then there was Jesus. Jesus was led into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit after a pinnacle moment in His life. His baptism. It was during His 40 days in the wilderness that Jesus hungered and was sustained by God's truth. He wasn't teaching or preaching, instead he was building up His inner resolve against the enemy by feasting only on what the Lord had to offer.
I have come to the conclusion that being in the wilderness is not necessarily a bad place to be, as we may often think. Instead it can be a very holy time, a time to listen much and speak little. A time to reflect and repent and renew. The past two months have been a very busy time in the life of our Network - both for our churches and for our women, so I had thought that it was just the busyness of the schedule that had made me lay my pen down. Now I realize that I wasn't meant to write during this busy season. I was in the wilderness, and it was a time for just listening. Listening to God's Word, feeding on His truth and discovering some of the next steps in moving forward. What I have learned has been incredible.
There may be times when you too will find yourself in the middle of the wilderness. I would encourage you to not be discouraged by the fact that you are not completing what maybe you think you should be doing with your time. Instead, embrace this time, let go of the unnecessary and just listen. Listen to what the Lord has for you, and then follow His leading. Let the wilderness be a place to recall or discover your purpose. Let it propel you on the next steps of the journey the Lord has planned for you.
"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the LORD. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope'" Jeremiah 29:11.
Normally we look at the wilderness as a less than desired place to be. A place that we would rather run from than run to. However, as I reflected on the verses about John the Baptist, I realized that it was during his time in the wilderness that John received the word from the Lord that propelled him into ministry. It was similar with Joshua. It was when Joshua was in the wilderness that he received his calling and was given his marching orders. And then there was Jesus. Jesus was led into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit after a pinnacle moment in His life. His baptism. It was during His 40 days in the wilderness that Jesus hungered and was sustained by God's truth. He wasn't teaching or preaching, instead he was building up His inner resolve against the enemy by feasting only on what the Lord had to offer.
I have come to the conclusion that being in the wilderness is not necessarily a bad place to be, as we may often think. Instead it can be a very holy time, a time to listen much and speak little. A time to reflect and repent and renew. The past two months have been a very busy time in the life of our Network - both for our churches and for our women, so I had thought that it was just the busyness of the schedule that had made me lay my pen down. Now I realize that I wasn't meant to write during this busy season. I was in the wilderness, and it was a time for just listening. Listening to God's Word, feeding on His truth and discovering some of the next steps in moving forward. What I have learned has been incredible.
There may be times when you too will find yourself in the middle of the wilderness. I would encourage you to not be discouraged by the fact that you are not completing what maybe you think you should be doing with your time. Instead, embrace this time, let go of the unnecessary and just listen. Listen to what the Lord has for you, and then follow His leading. Let the wilderness be a place to recall or discover your purpose. Let it propel you on the next steps of the journey the Lord has planned for you.
"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the LORD. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope'" Jeremiah 29:11.